Parenting is one of the hardest things that I have ever done but also the most rewarding. Parenting is a difficult task under typical circumstances and can quickly become very overwhelming when there are extenuating factors that come into play. The idea that we are supposed to automatically know how to raise a child from infancy through college age is very unrealistic. It seems like it should be obvious that even a “parenting expert” is going to need some guidance during the process. When you add in factors like divorce, ADHD, difficult temperament, single parenting, etc., the job can easily get extremely difficult. Of course, that guidance can and should be from friends, family, school personnel, clergy, etc.
How I can help
I generally get a phone call regarding parenting issues when the typical parenting strategies are not working. Some people also prefer to keep friends, family and the rest out of their parenting business and decide to consult with a professional. It is very important to keep in mind that there really is no right way to parent. I come to this conclusion after twenty plus years of family counseling, where I see many different parenting styles work and not work. That tends to be the bottom line for me; is what you are doing working to accomplish your parenting goals or not? If not, it certainly does not make what you are doing wrong; it just means that what you are doing is ineffective with this particular child, at this time. That is all! My job as a parenting coach is not to tell you how to parent. My job is to work with you and your parenting philosophy to help you find a solution to the challenges that you are facing.