My job as your couples therapist is to make the relationship my client (as opposed to either individual person) and help guide the couple through the process that they need to go through in order to move forward with the relationship. The main role of the couples therapist is to help the couple deal with the issues of the relationship in a productive manner, instead of the destructive and repetitive cycle of conflict and blame that many couples get caught in. Think of it like a guide in a storm, a guide that can see and navigate the terrain from a different perspective and with years of training and experience. When both parties are sincere in wanting to have improvement in the relationship, I believe we can do just that.
My ability as a couples therapist is strengthened not only from my education and many years of experience, but also from my own marriage of twenty plus years. We all bring our own issues into a long term relationship, and sooner or later some of those issues will negatively impact the relationship. This is just a fact of life when you are in a long-term relationship, in other words, it is perfectly normal! It is the way that we handle these issues that determines how much effect they have on our relationship. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes, and I believe that we all deserve some forgiveness.